Course offered to ladies to enjoy a better sexual life

Question:-

An Apa in Azaadville has started many dubious courses. Can Mufti Saheb please comment on the one quoted below as many people are being deviated.

She claims that senior Ulama of Azaadville have approved of her courses.

Below is her course:

Your Sexual Birthright

You Deserve Great Sex (And Now You Can Have It!)

As a woman, you have a special birthright that’s unique to you. You have the power to claim this right within you right this very moment – whether you know it or not.

The right to pleasure an organ on your body that’s SPECIFICALLY designed for no other purpose than pleasure.

There is no correlated organ in men – that is, men do not have any part of their body that serves the sole function of sexual pleasure. Not like you do.

So what does this tell you?

Simple: you deserve to be pleased. You deserve to feel pleasure. Your body was designed that way.

You deserve good sex.

Not regular sex. Not mediocre sex. Not “doing my duty” sex.

Good sex that curls your toes and rolls your eyes and gives you a glow that you carry through you the entire next day. Sex that’s fun and enjoyable, that brings you closer to your partner and empowers you as a woman.

And it starts with knowing your body and its ability to feel pleasure… and how to handle the emotional and psychological barriers you might not even know are standing in your way.

You can fumble through life and try to figure it out on your own…

Or you can decide right now that you’re ready to skip the fumbling and take charge today.

This brand-new program is designed specifically for women just like you – who understand that the keys to good sex don’t magically appear… but are smart enough to take advantage of the keys when they’re handed to you.

I’ll show you:

• The physical introduction you never had to your body.
• The process of seduction (and why it’s a legitimate need for women) and how to become an active participant in your own seduction… which heightens the entire experience AND allows you to retain control over your sexual satisfaction…
• The science behind the orgasm so it’s no longer a magical, mystical thing but a process that you can discover and repeat, reliably, every single time… because The Elusive O is a thing of the past…
• My tutorial will show you how different movements affect the sensations of sex… so you have almost a step-by-step tutorial to heighten your pleasure and direct your partner to feel good every time…
• And all the physical, emotional and psychological aspects of sex that you need to know to STOP feeling unsatisfied and make sex feel good… and reclaim the power of your sexuality once and for all

This workshop is specifically designed to empower YOU to take charge of your pleasure. To teach you what you need to know that you would never learn elsewhere. To show you not only the physical and anatomical need-to-know facts… but how to use them to find what makes you powerful and pleasurable.

I can’t wait to help you discover your body’s incredible capacity to feel good.

Join my BLISS OF MARRIAGE, FEMININITY AND INTIMACY WORKSHOP

Take your first step towards your happily ever after.

DON’T LOSE OUT ON THE JOY OF A MAGNIFICENT MARRIAGE.

Includes accommodation, meals, snacks, pilates, image consultant, massage and course materials.

Answer:-

The course in question is nothing short of immodesty and shamelessness. The advertisement publicized by the Apa gives the impression that, the purpose and objective of life for a female is in fulfilling her lust and desires, whereas the actual objective of life can be understood from various verses of the Quraan Sharif. We have quoted some of these verses below:

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اعْبُدُواْ رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ وَالَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

O people! Worship (only) your Rabb Who has created you and Who has created those before you, so that (by worshipping Him) you may develop Taqwa.

وَمَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِّن ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَأُوْلَئِكَ يَدْخُلُونَ الْجَنَّةَ يُرْزَقُونَ فِيهَا بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ

Whichever male or female carries out a good deed as a Mu’min shall enter Jannah, where they will be sustained without restriction.

وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُونِ

I have created man and Jinn only to worship Me (besides their various other functions, the most important objective of creating them is for them to recognise who Allah is).

Also, the objective of Nikah is not only restricted and confined to fulfilling one’s desires. Yes, it is undoubtedly one of the benefits of Nikah but the intention behind Nikah is far greater than fulfilling one’s lust and desires. Allah Ta’ala states in the Quraan Sharif:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً

Also among His Aayaat is that He has created spouses for you from yourselves (from your own species) so that you may find solace with her and He has placed love (most manifest during youth) and mercy (most manifest during old age) between you.

The purpose of Nikah mentioned in the above verse is to find comfort and solace in one’s spouse. Similarly, the Ahadith of Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam also indicate that the objective of Nikah is to increase the Ummah and Deen.

عن معقل بن يسار قال قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم تزوجوا الودود الولود فإني مكاثر بكم الأمم (رواه أبو داود والنسائي)

Hadrat Ma’qil Bin Yasaar narrates that Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam is reported to have said, “Marry such women that are loving to their husbands and able to bear children, for verily I will boast because of your large numbers over the other Ummats.

عن ابي هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم تنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولجمالها ولحسبها ولدينها، فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك (متفق عليه)

Hadrat Abu Hurairah Radiallahu Anhu narrates that Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam is reported to have said, “Nikah is made to a woman for four reasons; for her wealth, her beauty, his family lineage and for her Deen. Be successful with the one that has Deen, may your hands be soiled (if you do not do as I have commanded you).

عن ابي هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه، إلا تفعلوه تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد عريض (رواه الترمذي)

Hadrat Abu Hurairah Radiallahu Anhu narrates that Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam is reported to have said, “When such a person forwards a proposal to you with whose Deen and character you are pleased, then have the Nikah performed to him, for if you do not do so, then corruption will become widespread on the earth. 

We will never come across a single verse of the Quraan Sharif or Hadith Sharif which indicates that the sole purpose of marriage is sexual gratification. Yes, it is undoubtedly one of the means of protecting one’s chastity. In fact, the Hadith states that Allah’s special assistance is with the person that makes Nikah, with the intention of protecting his chastity.

The Kuffar have propounded the importance of fulfilling one’s lust and desires in magazines, newspapers, television, social media etc. to such an extent that, unfortunately, even the Muslim Ummah has fallen prey to it and now regard it to be the objective of life. Never in the history of the Muslims were courses offered to educate humans on how to be intimate and fulfil their desires. The ability of being intimate is a natural quality instilled within every human being. However, because we have abandoned the laws of Allah Ta’ala and His Rasul Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam and we have forgotten the aim of our creation, we are channelling our energies towards base desires which are naturally instilled with us.

Finally, Allah Ta’ala has created every human being with natural Hayaa and shame. Matters pertaining to intimacy with spouses are not discussed with others. Perhaps the course in question is only the starting point to the Fitnah, and soon after, women will then discuss their intimate relationships about their husbands with other women. In a narration of Ibn Masood Radiallahu Anhu, Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam prohibited that a woman describes (the features) of another woman to her husband in such a manner as though he is looking at her. The first reason for the prohibition is that this is an act of shamelessness and immodesty. Secondly, it is possible that a husband becomes attracted to the woman described before him and consequently, he gets involved in Fitnah. [Re:-Tawdeehaat Pg.54 Vol.5]

The very same fear exists for females. The organizers of the course may request all females to provide feedback on their progress after completing the course. It is possible that some reports may be extremely positive and encouraging, which will result in it becoming a means of Fitnah for other women. This will be just one more way of destroying good homes and ruining the lives of happily married couples. It is also possible that unmarried women will attend the course and, having no husband, we can imagine the havoc and destruction that will arise.

It seems, from the advertisement, that the course will be held at some resort or holiday venue. This is again another Fitnah as females will be driven out of their homes without their Mahaarim, taken to some resort or conference venue where they spend a night or two, if not more, and expose their bodies before non-Muslim females for massages etc. which are all impermissible. Females will be able to consult with ‘Image Consultants’ and it is possible that these consultants may advise females to go for face-lifts, advise them to streak their hair, trim their hair and eyebrows, dress similar to the “street-women” and thereby seduce their men, and perhaps, a time may dawn when they will be required to even remove their Purdah. These are just some of the possible harms and evils of this programme.

In conclusion, beware of this trap of Shaytaan. This is in no way improving the marital lives of couples but is unmistakably a way to destroy the lives of the Ummah. May Allah Ta’ala guide us all and protect us all from these Fitnahs. Ameen!

ALLAH TA’ALA KNOWS BEST!

ANSWERED BY:

Mufti Mohammed Desai

Date: 14 Rabi-ul-Awwal 1444 / 11 October 2022